11 The Power of Parenting - Dr. Jeanette Pinto

posted Jul 18, 2018, 10:52 AM by Neil D'Souza   [ updated Jul 18, 2018, 10:52 AM ]
The greatest joy that parents can get in life is to see their children turn into beautiful caring and loving persons. All parents strive for this. There is no perfect formula, but parents have the power to influence their children, although it is a herculean task. A child's very first contact with humankind is its parents who help it to grow and discover himself/herself. The power of parenting goes far beyond the basic survival needs of the child.

Parenting decisions affect how children turn out physically, socially and emotionally, but that does not mean there is a pattern to follow to have a well-adjusted child. In the initial years, meeting your child's needs, soothing him with your voice, your touch, reading a book, cuddling, or any activity that involves nurturing will enhance your child's emotional wellbeing. It will also add to temperament, personality, and ability to cope with stress, and reach his overall potential. Model for your children how to smile at someone, respond to a greeting, how to interact with others, how to comfort someone who is crying.

In the growing years, it is important for parents to constantly support them. Walk your child to school, watch TV as a family, play board games, dine together - all this offers the opportunity to bond. This fosters confidence and growth in many areas, and can impact emotional development; it also exposes children to understand the emotions of others.

Parents, be aware of how your own emotions and parenting styles affect the emotional outcomes of your children. Marital conflicts and indifferent parenting contribute to problems resulting in negative behaviour and parent-child relationships. When the child hears the parents shouting, fighting or name calling, it affects the child, and there is what is called 'background anger' in the child's environment. It confuses the child and affects its emotional security. Parents should provide a supportive environment, model healthy behaviour and practise values like respect, kindness, patience and understanding which will go a long way to make children emotionally developed.