05 Editorial - A Return Gift to Parents

posted Jul 18, 2018, 11:01 AM by Neil D'Souza   [ updated Jul 19, 2018, 6:07 PM ]
What is the best return gift that young people can give their parents? As long as you, my dear young friends, are in school or college, your studies must be your main priority, and you need to focus your time and energies on them. When your parents see that you are striving to do, and give of, your best, focusing sincerely on your studies, when you treat them with love and respect, and are open to listening to them and communicating freely with them, you bring joy into their lives, add meaning to their years, and make them feel that all the sacrifices they are making for you are worthwhile.

One of the major concerns of parents today is the lack of interest and effort they see in their children’s attitude towards their studies. Because of the tough competitive world in which you live today, their concerns are understandable. If you are to succeed in your life, you need to focus on your studies. Remember that the sure secret to success is that magic formula: SUCCESS = AVERAGE INTELLIGENCE + HARD WORK + DETERMINATION + PERSEVERANCE.

Research indicates that even people with average intelligence can do very well in life, provided they combine it with Hard Work, Determination and Perseverance. Any and everybody can work hard, and there is no substitute for hard work. Determination is “the Will to Win”. No one can help you unless you want to come out a winner yourself. Perseverance means “Never give up”; the big problem with young people today is that you often give up too soon and too easily. But remember, “Quitters never win, and Winners never quit.”

Remember the Magic Mantra, “I CAN, I WILL, I MUST BE A WINNER”; keep saying this often to yourself. ‘I CAN’ - Believe in your strengths and capacities, believe you can do it. ‘I WILL’ signifies Determination, and ‘I MUST’ expresses Perseverance. Belief in oneself, coupled with the determination to succeed and the strength to persevere, will surely enable you to come out a winner.

Another important concern of many parents today is the time you spend on your smartphones, on television, gaming with friends and on social media like Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter and now Instagram. These encroach upon your studying time, and when you refuse to listen to your parents’ repeated requests and reminders, it needlessly leads to a break down in inter-personal relationships. If engaged in moderation, these pastimes are good; it is when we become addicted to them and have no control over them, that they eat into our time without our realising it.

In your relationships with your Mum and Dad, try to be cordial and respectful. Remember that they love you and care for you, and that what you might see as unnecessary concern and interference is prompted really by their love for you. Try to communicate with them in a pleasant and respectful manner. (There is no doubt that parents too must strive to do the same.) If you disagree with their opinions or suggestions, do so without being rude or mean. You can express how you feel, but always do so without being hurtful.

My dear young people, better than all the cards, flowers and presents you can give your Mum and Dad on Parents Day this year, the best return gift you can give them is your love, appreciation and gratitude which need to be expressed, keeping the channels of communication with them open, and your striving to do and give of your best in your studies and in all your endeavours… a gift that will touch their hearts, add life to their years and make it easier for them to bring you up in today’s tough, challenging world. God bless you all!!

Dr (Mrs) Elaine Ann Charles is the ex-Principal of St Xavier’s Institute of Education, Mumbai, and an experienced educationist.