09 An open letter to the Parents of Class X & XII students - Fr. Dr. Patrick D'Souza

posted Jun 14, 2018, 8:40 AM by Neil D'Souza   [ updated Jun 14, 2018, 8:40 AM ]
Dear parents of the tenth and twelfth standard students, I wish to share with you some information and insights that I have gathered from my encounter with the students of the tenth and twelfth standard and their parents in personal and group counselling sessions.

1) High expectations

Parents have high expectations from their children, when it comes to the final grades or marks. It is obvious that the parents want their children to do well in the examination, so that they can get admission in the best of the institutions of higher education and get degrees from the reputed universities and educational institutions. They want their children to get the best jobs and secure their future. Definitely, it is a need in the modern age of excellence and competition for the students to work hard and sincerely, so that they can achieve their targets and be successful in life. The parents cannot be blamed if they push their children a bit harshly, out of genuine love and concern for their future and for the success of their careers. When the children are tempted by electronic media and other avenues of entertainment, the parents have to take an active role in regulating their entertainment time and study time, so that a proper balance is created in the life and behaviour of the children.

2) Guidance, not nagging, is needed

Many parents feel that they have to be after their children all the time, reminding them about their studies, otherwise they will waste their time and will not be adequately prepared for the examination. The parents constantly remind them to study because they love their children. But the parents must be able to distinguish between encouraging their children to study and nagging them time and again. The children in the age group of 15 - 18 are very sensitive regarding any advice or suggestions from their parents. This is the age when they begin to feel responsible for their life and they feel that they are wise enough and old enough to take independent decisions and to manage their life. At this stage, they don’t like any interference from anyone -neither their parents nor teachers. Therefore, parents should resist the temptation of constantly reminding their children about studies. Instead, they must have a dialogue with them at the beginning of the academic year and make them aware of the parental expectations from them.>>>