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posted Apr 30, 2019, 6:03 AM by Neil D'Souza   [ updated Apr 30, 2019, 6:03 AM ]

Police Commissioner meets with Leaders of Christian Churches regarding Security Measures

At a meeting held at Archbishop's House, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, between representatives of various Churches in the Christian Community and the Mumbai Police, the Commissioner of Police, Mr Sanjay Barve, highlighted the need for enhanced security measures, particularly in the wake of the recent terrorist attacks on churches in Sri Lanka. The ways and means of ensuring the best possible safety measures were enumerated and explained, which also involved the use of technology such as CCTV and scanners. The traditional welcome greeting is also a good way of recognising members of the congregation.

His Eminence, Oswald Cardinal Gracias, Archbishop of Bombay, expressed his gratitude to the Mumbai Police for the professional service they render to the city, and their extremely professional approach in dealing with Law and Order. The Cardinal confirmed that he would share the outcome of this meeting with all the parishes of the Archdiocese as well as with other Church Leaders. The meeting was convened by Dr Abraham Mathai, former Vice Chairman, State Minorities Commission.

ARCHDIOCESEOFBOMBAY.ORG

Ministry of the Word Programme

The Ministry of the Word Programme (Archdiocese of Bombay) aims at equipping lay people to personally experience the saving power of the Word of God in their lives, and out of that experience to communicate God's Word to others in the parish. The programme covers the study of all the books of the Old and the New Testament, the document of the Second Vatican Council on Divine Revelation, and the Pontifical Biblical Commission's document on the interpretation of the Bible in the Church. The courses are conducted by professors of the Archdiocesan Seminary and other competent Bible teachers. At the end of the study stage, the candidates enter the probation stage. On successfully completing this stage, the candidates are commissioned as Ministers of the Word in the Archdiocese.

Admissions are open for the new academic year, which will begin on May 30, 2019. Please send your name and parish to: rolandfialho7@rediffmail.com

Maundy Thursday Mass at Taloja Jail

In keeping with the spirit of Pope Francis reaching out to the prisoners on Maundy Thursday, the Prison Ministry of India (Mumbai Unit) went to Taloja Jail. The Eucharist was celebrated by Bishop Allwyn D'Silva and Fr Baptist Viegas. Bp Allwyn washed the feet of 15 prisoners. The Eucharist was animated by the PMI volunteers and prayer group of Vashi and Kharghar. The prison officials extended a warm welcome to the members of PMI.

Inter-religious Peace Meeting for Sri Lanka

In the aftermath of the Easter Sunday bombings in Sri Lanka, the Bombay Archdiocesan Inter-Religious Dialogue Commission is organising a peace meeting entitled 'Inter Religious Solidarity with Sri Lankans', on Sunday, May 5, 2019 from 4:30 pm to 6:30 pm at St Michael's Church Hall, Mahim. Bishop Bosco Penha, Emeritus Auxiliary Bishop of Bombay, will lead the prayers. All are welcome, along with friends from different religions.

FR S. M. MICHAEL SVD, DIRECTOR

Understanding Couple Conflict

A session was conducted by Fr Anthony J. D'Souza SJ on March 24, 2019 at the Loyola Hall of St Peter's Church, Bandra for the Coordinators/Animators of the Family Cells of the Bandra Deanery parishes, under the guidance of Fr Gerard Rodrigues SJ. Fr Antony J. D'Souza is the Director of Premanjali, Family Counselling Training Institute in Vasai.

The topic was understanding the dynamics of conflict, and learning effective communication skills which would be useful in helping couples. One expected to hear the usual solutions of listening to both sides, and advising the couple to have patience, show love and understanding. However, Fr Tony explained listening and dealing with family conflict and crises with a radical approach.

In a Marriage, he said, there are two life-long processes taking place: Understanding and Mirroring. Perspective is an important factor in understanding people. People have different perspectives. Perspectives eventually become reality. A perspective is influenced by Values, Attitudes, Beliefs and Past experiences.

Every family has a different set of values. A child in the family absorbs values. This child internalises it, and that becomes his/her attitude. The child generalizes values, and they become beliefs. Past experiences affect our attitudes and beliefs. Certain things over a period of time become the truth. Perspective in this manner become a reality, especially when there is a lack of communication. There is need for effective communication in relationships. When one looks at it as a perspective, one keeps the doors open for the relationship to grow. When perspective becomes a reality, the doors are closed, and there is no communication. This leads to conflict - Reality becomes My Reality, which the other person is not able to identify with.

Conflict can be resolved constructively through the following steps: Listening, Understanding and Forgiveness. Listening must be not only externally or physically. One must keep one's perspective aside, and not filter the other person's perspective through one's own perspective. Understand means literally 'stand under' (the other person's place). Forgiveness follows when understanding takes place. Forgiveness has two aspects: Memory and Negative feeling.

It is important to forgive and not forget (without a negative feeling) as this helps in understanding the person concerned and strengthening the relationship in the future. Indifference is the enemy of love, and endangers marital relationships, and hence married couples must guard their relationship against it. The session was truly enlightening, and we took home a new perspective about understanding couple conflict.Further information can be obtained from the website www.premanjali.in

VEENA CRASTO, BANDRA

BCS/3M Course Graduation Day

Be the best version of yourself. You don't have to live anyone else's story - this life nugget has been evidently appropriated by the participants at the recently concluded BCS (Basic Counselling Skills) and 3M (Making Marriage Meaningful) Courses facilitated by Fr Patrick D'Mello and Michael Rodrigues. Like two peas in a pod, they have recalibrated the minds and bodies of the forty (29 BCS + 11 3M) participants so that they can celebrate enriched lives everyday.

With their vast and exhaustive knowledge in the field of positive psychology, together with real life experiences, the facilitators challenged the participants to look boldly within themselves, accept their identity and freely live transformed lives.

Indeed, their path-breaking training has greatly benefited the Church, and it is to their credit that similar courses are seeing numbers being added regularly. At the certification programme, graced by Fr Luke Rodrigues SJ, on April 14, 2019, the participants unabashedly shared their testimonies, highlighting the life-changing techniques and skills learnt at the course.

The BCS course focused on developing emotional intelligence, taking control of feelings, managing anger, practising assertiveness, accurate empathy, handling confrontation and conflicts, restoring relationships and forgiveness, passionately pursuing one's goals and becoming a happy proactive person. The 3M course strengthened the bonds of couples, even though most were married for over seven years. The sessions on the languages of love, sexual intimacy, gender sensitivity, positive parenting, marital conflicts and family mission statement were both useful and practical. For the couples attending, it was a life-changing experience.

If you are sinking rock bottom or straddling an emotional ridge, or perhaps, simply disconnected with life and living, these courses can be your elevation – a renewal of both heart and mind. For next year's courses, contact 98205 30374.

ANITA MENEZES, POKHRAN


FORTHCOMING EVENTS

The Fully Alive Experience
Prafulta invites all teenagers (12-16 yrs) to participate in ‘The Fully Alive Experience’ - a fun filled workshop on personal development on May 1-2, 2019. Venue: Prafulta Psychological Services, c/o Domnic Savio School, Opp Tolani College, off Mahakali Caves Road. Andheri East. To register call: 2830 2323, 2820 0248, 98204 84546.

The next Inner Healing Retreat conducted by the Inner Healing Team, is specially designated for our Youth. Dates are June 13 - 16. All youth can be encouraged to attend to help bring healing and wholeness in their lives. For details, contact Anthony Lobo at 98198 49997 (WhatsApp) or on email at tinantony@gmail.com

Open Growth Retreat: May 11-12, from 8:30 am – 5 pm each day. Venue: Salvation Seva Kendra, 2nd Floor, Gokhale Road, Dadar (W). Conducted by the Catholic Charismatic Renewal, Mumbai. Registrations at the CCR Office, Dadar (W) – 2430 3626/2421 0881/99309 40705. Register early.

Ignatian Retreat for Women Religious. Conducted by the Jesuits at Vinayalaya from May 15 (7 pm) to May 22 ( 4pm) at Vinayalaya Retreat House, Andheri (E). For details and registration, contact vinayrethouse@gmail.com or 2687 1975.

St Stanislaus Villa 'Family' Holiday Camp

Camp 1: 5 Days - Wed. 08 May - Sun. 12 May
Camp 2: 5 Days - Wed. 15 May - Sun. 19 May
Camp 3: 5 Days - Wed. 22 May - Sun. 26 May
Camp 4: 6 Days - Tue. 28 May to Sun. 02 June

There is a bus available for those interested. For more information & registration, get in touch with The Parish Office, St Peter's Church, Hill Rd, Bandra. Tel: 2645 9474/2642 3098 Or WhatsApp 'CAMP FORM ' to Fr Gerard C. Rodricks sj 92232 62524.